Talking about sex
is healthy.
Really.
↑ hi, I’m Maaike
Less desire than you’d like. Pain where pleasure should be. A mind that won’t switch off during sex. These are the most common reasons people email me. And none of them is strange.
Sessions are usually online; in person is possible in Zundert or Tilburg. No referral or waiting list.
Sound familiar?
You’re really not the only one.
Questions about sex are incredibly normal. Almost everyone runs into them at some point. But hardly anyone talks about them. That’s exactly what I’m here for.
Recognise any of these?That’s reason enough to send an email.You don’t have to solve it on your own first.
Sex isn’t a performance.
It’s allowed to simply feel good.
Insecurity, a bad experience, a body that won’t cooperate, or tension in your relationship: any of it can get in the way. I don’t just look at what’s difficult, but above all at what’s already possible. Together we write a new sexual script: one that fits you. Or the two of you.
Get to know meConcrete, warm and no fuss.I look beyond the complaint alone: your body, thoughts, relationship and experiences all play a part. And you always go home with something you can use.
You set the pace
You choose what comes up. Nothing has to happen straight away, and nothing has to happen in the first session.
Anything can be said
From “we never have sex any more” to a fantasy you’ve never said out loud. Without judgement, without a raised eyebrow.
Focus on what does work
Problems get attention, but above all we build on what’s already going well. That works faster and feels better.
Homework that doesn’t feel like homework
Practical exercises and tips you can put into practice that same week, on your own or together.
What you’d want to know before emailing
Where do the sessions take place?
Usually online, simply from your own sofa with a cup of tea. In person is possible at Seksuologen met Twee in Zundert or at the practice in Tilburg. Evening appointments are also possible online.
Do I need a referral?
No. You email, we schedule, done. No GP or waiting list needed.
Do I come alone or with my partner?
Either works. Sex often happens within a relationship, so coming together is often valuable. But first working out what you feel on your own is just as good a start.
How many sessions do I need?
Sometimes a few sessions are enough, sometimes you work together for longer. We decide that together, not in advance.
What if I don’t really know how to explain it?
Then you’re exactly where you should be. Finding words for this kind of thing is literally what we work on together. A few sentences in your email is enough.
The first step isan email.
Nothing more.
You don’t have to phrase your question perfectly. “I’m running into something and I’d like to talk about it” is more than enough.
Email praktijk@deseksuoloog.nl I read everything myself, and reply quickly